4 Ways To Get Invited Back to a Member Guest

by ATG on June 14, 2011

When your friend or relative invites you to a Member-Guest, it’s a big deal. They are, in essence, saying, “I want you to come represent me in front of my friends at my club.” It is a true honor. This privilege creates a lofty amount of responsibility; below are 4 simple, easy ways to get invited back to your friend’s Member Guest.

Make Your Partner Look Good

There are many ways to do this and not do this. A few that come to mind include:

  • Tell stories of the past you have together. Each of you know one another for a reason, let his fellow members in on a side of your host they may not know — a good side that is.
  • Do not talk about or compare your club. Any form of trying to “keep up with the Joneses” or commenting on how your club does it always comes off awkward.
  • Dress like your partner. This doesn’t mean wear the exact same item…that would be ridiculous and is highly ill-advised. But dressing beneath your partner (shirt untucked or tennis golf shoes) could create tension and dressing above him (a flamboyant-Poulter outfit) could make him feel out-of-place at his home course. Best advice: stay traditional and classic.

Play Well

This might be too simple, but depending on your partner, being in contention is a high priority and if you get waxed, coming back may be a tall order. Weeks leading up to the tournament, take some extra range time, bring the putter to work, and get mentally prepared for firing at pins and dropping putts.

Write Personal Thank You Notes

Writing thank you notes is one of the least time consuming ways and potentially has the greatest “remembrance factor” because so few people do it. Notice Thank You Notes” is plural. This means writing two is best form: one to your host and one to the head pro — both thanking them for the weekend, accommodations, and experience. Notes should only be written if the message is authentic and sincere, otherwise don’t bother.


Some of the greatest relationships are formed on the golf course. As most know, relationships are a two way street and if an individual doesn’t reciprocate in anyway, it hints a lack of appreciation. There are many ways to reciprocate including a gift, a golf trip that you initiate, or your Member-Guest.

These were just 4 ways of many to get invited back to the Member Guest. Good luck and hopefully your host will see you next year.



{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Humbrto Campos April 11, 2012 at 2:00 pm

I am always invited to rounds and outtings at various clubs. Some are by good friends and others are aquaintances.
What is the protocol for reciprocation if I am not a member.
I have a restaurant and usually invite them for dinner and they seem very grateful when I do. Is there anything else I could do other than buying gifts and sending thank you notes. Is there some “inside” gesture that only “members” know about?

Jon Birdsong April 11, 2012 at 10:30 pm


Great question. Remember, you’re invited to a Member-Guest because you’re most likely fun and enjoyable to be around, not to pay the person back in some form. Reciprocation can come in many ways. After looking at your restaurant — which looks amazing, by the way — that’s a great option.

As for reciprocating on the golf front:

Another tip is to keep a mental list of folks you want to reciprocate with and put together a golf trip to perhaps Ireland and Bandon Dunes and invite them. While there, pick up a caddy fee or dinner, but organizing the trip will be more than equal and you’ll be able to reciprocate with many friends at once. It’s a win-win.

Good luck!


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